Processing everything going on in your life can be very confusing, draining and get you down. The old saying ‘A problem shared is a problem halved‘ springs to mind. If you feel isolated and alone, there are many things you can do to help this. I strongly urge that you accept all the support you can get. There are many services you can access that are equipped to help. It is important that you identify your symptoms as soon as possible so you can get back on the road to recovery. Depressive symptoms can be;


  • continuous low mood or sadness
  • feeling hopeless and helpless
  • having low self-esteem 
  • feeling tearful
  • feeling guilt-ridden
  • feeling irritable and intolerant of others 
  • having no motivation or interest in things
  • finding it difficult to make decisions
  • not getting any enjoyment out of life
  • feeling anxious or worried 
  • changes in appetite or weight 
  • unexplained aches and pains
  • lack of energy
  • low sex drive (loss of libido)
  • disturbed sleep 

If at any point you feel you may pose a risk to yourself, it is urgent to seek medical help or see your GP. For a list of services please see the Get Help section.


In a society plagued by filtered selfies and masking one’s natural self, sometimes accepting your truest form is one of the hardest things to do yet the most freeing. Asking the world to accept you when you cannot accept yourself is a very difficult battle. There is no doubt going to be a conflict of identity on your journey of self-acceptance. When you are coming to terms with your sexuality, you may be inclined to look toward the LGBTQ+ community for social support. The structure of the LGBTQ+ community is no different from any other subculture social structure. There is a plethora of sub identities, and this may take some time figuring out what you might fall into. That’s not to say you must fit into a category. When exploring these identities, it is imperative that you stay true to yourself. Never alter yourself to fit in. However, there is no shame in expression. Some people have been isolated in a box for so long and denied expression, that when they come out it almost seems as if they have become a totally different person. 

Never fear expressing who you are or where you fit in society. Amritdhari (Baptized) and Non-Amritdhari  Sikhs it would be irresponsible of me if i did not warn you against drugs and alcohol. These things are frowned upon in Gurmat (Ideology) and are ultimately temporary indulgences. Unfortunately, LGBTQ+ folks are disproportionately at greater risk of alcohol and substance dependency issues. It can be incredibly  isolating to engage with the community when this is a large staple. Never feel that clubbing, alcohol or drugs are needed, there are many other ways in which you can engage with the LGBTQ+ community such as; Queer specific meet up groups for all hobbies, student unions or queer community groups. 


Coming out

Making the plunge and coming out doesn’t need to be as scary as it may seem. But, always remember that it does not have to be your end goal. Thankfully the times are a little different from perhaps 20 – 30 years ago. Society is generally more accepting. You may choose to do this in baby steps. Telling friends or close ones and progressively to becoming a known fact about you. However you choose to do this, it is all made easier with self-acceptance. You won’t have so much to fear by telling work colleagues or friends. Moving on to the family, only you know the best way to come out by assessing your family dynamic and if, any ramifications. If you are worried and need more advice, please see the Help & Support section on who to contact.